Going to the Mattresses: Adventures in Bed Buying + Weekly Wrap-Up

My daughter’s shoulder has been giving her a lot of grief. Or rather, she kept complaining about shoulder pain. “This bed,” she would say. “It’s this bed.”

So, finally, after listening to her complain about her bed for almost a year–and more importantly, after she started taking muscle relaxers to deal with the pain in her shoulder–I asked her, “Do you want a new mattress?”

Now, I know a year is a long time to wait to ask that, but part of that is because (1) it seemed to be off and on, especially after she came back from the monastery where she was sleeping on the floor; (2) the mattress isn’t that old–only about three years; (3) everybody else who has slept on the mattress loves it; (4) my daughter is leaving to go back to Florida in a week. I think both of us kept thinking about the mattress problem as temporary, especially with her going back to school. In fact, after my daughter said no to the mattress because she was leaving for school in (then) three weeks, I had to point out that was true but also, she would be back here for breaks and the problem would still exist. She resisted a little while longer, arguing that she was fine as long as she did yoga every day, but, finally, after about three more days or so of trying to thug it out, she finally relented and agreed, so off to the mattress store we went.

The associate was a very nice young woman named Yesenia who explained to us that because my daughter sleeps on her back but also her side and sometimes her stomach, a firm mattress was probably the worst kind of bed for her because there was no give for the natural curve in her back. Yesenia also told us that sometimes people think they want a firm mattress, especially if they have been sleeping on a softer one, but that it’s better to go with something in the middle so you can have that give. So, my daughter tested several beds, and Yesenia and I watched as she sank comfortably into a couple with Yesenia pointing out how the give in the bed changed and we could see how it would be better to have the slightly softer bed.

The bed was picked, and then my daughter had to decide on the frame–or rather whether she wanted a traditional frame with a box spring or an adjustable bed base. She chose the adjustable base, so I arranged for doorstep delivery where they bring everything to the door and then we would have to put it inside, which is easy enough for a mattress. Yesenia asked if I wanted home set up for an additional fee, but I told her no, and she said no problem and finished the sale.

Now, a traditional bed frame is two or three pieces, right? You just pop open the pieces, click them together, and then–bam–ready to go. I thought the adjustable base would be the same because, well, look at the picture in the link. I thought it would come in some plastic or a flat box and then we would just have to pop the legs out and then plug it in and be good to go.

When the delivery men got there, they had the mattress and base, of course, but the base was in a box that was much smaller than the size of the base. And then when I got it inside and opened it, I realized that putting it together involved quite a bit of putting it together. As in, threading the cord through, adding the pressure gauges, and some other stuff that I stopped reading after I realized how much work it was going to be.

So I had to call the store and tell them, uh, yeah, I needed somebody to come put the base together because I most certainly could not–or I could, but I knew it would take me hours–and the associate on the phone (a different person this time) said, “Yeah, that’s why I always recommend people get the home set up service.”

Now, I did not want to get Yesenia in trouble but old girl definitely did not tell me anything about the process of setting the bed up, nor did she highly recommend home set up. She just shrugged when I said no without so much as a “You sure? Because you know that base has to be put together” or ANYTHING. She let me be on my way without nary a warning. I was on the phone with my two longest running friends after this happened and they also thought she dropped the ball because WHO WOULD KNOW THAT THE BASE WOULD BE IN PIECES????

So, anyway, we had to wait until the next day for the bed to get put together (at a discounted rate), and when the two young men came and assembled it, it took them about ten minutes and, in conclusion, I want to be “don’t even have to think about putting my own furniture together” rich. Because what a different experience that was than putting together my dining room table.

I am still annoyed at Yesenia, especially because her service was otherwise top notch!

In the future, I will always ask about the state anything I order is delivered in, but I sure do wish I hadn’t had to learn it this way.


I read another awesome book!

Daisy Jones & The Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid

Rating: 5 out of 5.

Daisy Jones & The Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid is about a fictional rock band of the same name and what happens to make them break up at the height of their popularity and career. The novel is inspired by Fleetwood Mac, which means nothing to me, but if that’s the kind of thing that may mean you would check the book out, there you go.

Almost everyone I follow on Goodreads loved this book, and it’s a Reese’s Book Club pick so you know I went into it with reservations because hype and all that. Well, I’m here to tell you: Believe the hype. This book is phenomenal.

Fun fact: I started this as an audiobook but couldn’t stand the Daisy Jones narration but ultimately that’s what I heard every time Daisy Jones spoke in the book. So what I’m saying is that the voice Jennifer Beals picked absolutely fit the narrative (and is exactly how Daisy’s voice is described); I just couldn’t get into it even though I love a full-cast audio.

So anyway, yes, I loved this mostly because it’s a great character study and I love character studies. My favorite character is probably Pete (who doesn’t even do any narration–minus one very small bit), and my second favorite is Warren because they are legit the only ones that are all, “I mean, I’m just here to play music.”

I had so much to say when I first read this, but I don’t want to say too much to ruin the experience of reading it for anyone else. I will say, though, that this is a very different kind of love story, and I really liked the exploration of what love can look like and that it is not always a fairytale. I also am super into oral histories and since this is in the style of an oral history, it 100% worked for me. Also also also, I love the cover because it looks like an album cover and perfectly captures the mood of the entire story.

I also love Karen, but you knew that already. And Camila was also awesome. Okay, I loved all the female characters except Daisy–except that’s not even true. Daisy is a great character. I just wouldn’t want to be her friend is all. (I also wouldn’t want to be any of the guys’ friends except maybe Warren.) (And not even him because of all the drugs.) (There are SO MANY drugs in this book.)


I also watched a couple of movies.

Wonder Woman 1984 (HBOMax)

Rating: 1.5 out of 5.

Here’s the IMDb description, which, I guess:

Diana must contend with a work colleague and businessman, whose desire for extreme wealth sends the world down a path of destruction, after an ancient artifact that grants wishes goes missing.

You know, there is a lot wrong with this movie, but I will say that its biggest error is that the people in charge of production (including the writers) fundamentally do not get the character or her world. 

The most egregious example of this is that the invisible jet featured in this movie is not a feat of Amazonian engineering but is instead something she does with magic for her boyfriend because she saw her father do it. I just…WHAT? NO. Absolutely not.

Anyway, that ridiculousness aside, I thought the beginning of the movie was fine, not terrible, but the end is a whole entire mess and makes absolutely no sense. There is a good story in here about grief and desire or desire and loss (esp. re: Diana/Steve and Max/Alistair), but the writers never land on any one specific theme. Barbara’s character arc makes literally no sense (ZERO) as in I honestly do not understand how she got from “I want to be seen and valued” to “Let me beat up people for this guy I didn’t even get to have sex with so he can fall apart on an international broadcast.” These are not even spoilers because how can you make sense of them??? You cannot.

Wonder Woman can go toe to toe with Superman (watch the Justice League animated series if you haven’t already) and in this movie she thwarts a mall robbery.

Also, why is this movie so long???

I do not understand why DC doesn’t just hire the people who produce their animated series/movies to do the live action ones because those projects are actually thoughtful and true to the characters. Watch the animated Wonder Woman movie from 2009 (also streaming on HBOMax) and skip this.

1 1/2 stars instead of 2 because the more I think about this movie, the less I like it.

Knives Out (Amazon Prime)

Rating: 5 out of 5.

I watched this again so I could introduce my daughter to it. It is so much fun and just such a delight, even the second time around. All of the performances are stellar, and I cannot get over just how EXTRA Harlan is, but bless him, if he weren’t, there would be no story to tell. I also love that all the characters actually are that terrible and irredeemably so.

My daughter loved it so much that we watched an episode of Columbo the next day, and if that isn’t high praise, I don’t know what is.


Have a good week, everyone. Stay safe out there.

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