A is for Acceptance #AtoZChallenge

April 1, 2017

I am grateful for acceptance because it lets me look at a problem full on and see what my options are for solving it.

I am grateful for acceptance because it keeps me from indulging in the what-ifs and should-have-beens.

Acceptance keeps me in the present.

Yesterday, after I balanced my checkbook and used the envelope system to allocate money for gas and food, I had to accept the fact that I had no disposable income.

This was after I finally accepted (again) that I have a lot of debt and need to live within my means.

Accepting that I had no disposable income meant that I couldn’t go see either Hidden Figures or Get Out, or do, well, anything else extra really. Before I would have been depressed or sad. But now I can say, “This is your situation right now. If you want more any disposable income, you know what you need to do.”

It also meant I had to fully face that I had <$20 for groceries for the next two weeks. And that I should have budgeted before I made a quick run to the grocery store. See, if I had budgeted before, I might have changed what I bought. But I didn’t. So I had to accept that I couldn’t change that decision because it was in the past. I could only focus on what to do next. And because I know using my credit card to buy food won’t help me get out of debt, I had to accept that I was not going to use that as an option.

When my mom reminded me that Farm Share was going to be in our town, I knew it was something I could do to solve my problem about getting food for the next two weeks. I had to accept that I needed help getting food and that help was available.

Acceptance allows me to ask for help, something I used to be unwilling to do.

Acceptance allows me to make the changes I need to live the life I want.

I am grateful for acceptance.

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Blogging from A to Z is a challenge that runs through the month of April.

For the Blogging from A to Z Challenge this year, my theme is gratitude. Every day, I am going to post about something I am grateful for. Tune in tomorrow to see what I pick for B.

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10 Comments

  1. calensariel

    That is a most excellent post! And I loved “Acceptance keeps me in the present.” That right there lets me know what I need to work on in my life. I have a HORRID time staying in the present moment. Well done!

    Calen~
    A to Z Challenge Letter A

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  2. crissdude

    Such an important lesson for life…and you made it even more relatable with examples from your life.

    Loved reading this.

    Cheers,
    CRD

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  3. chrissy50

    Wow. You are brave. I have said and said and SAID that I will do the envelope system to budget, because it seems absolutely foolproof. I mean, you have what you have in each envelope and no more. And like you said, “fun and entertainment” is the last envelope allotted. *sigh* I accept that I need to strive for the envelope system….next month….with gratitude. 🙂

    Great post!!-

    –Chris

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  4. Kiran Ashraf

    My God the best blog it is 🙂

    Cheers,
    Kiran
    kiranashraf.blogspot.com

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  5. Jenny @ Reading the End

    HUG man have I been there. I’m glad that there’s a resource for you to draw on to help out with groceries, and I hope it gets you lots of delicious things. <3

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  6. truenorthbricks

    I really enjoyed your post and your honesty! There is a valuable lesson there for everyone.

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  7. The Widow Badass

    I hope it gets better for you. Been there, done that. Had to make the tough daily decisions like you.

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  8. Arlee Bird

    Without acceptance of the reality, we live in a fantasy which doesn’t really allow us to progress.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

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  9. K E Garland

    I love the honesty of this post my dear. Acceptance is a valuable skill.

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  10. Raivenne

    A is for Acceptance and Adulting as the kids. It takes being an adult to accept things and work with it and within. Oh but worth it.

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