Glasses, part II #SOL24

March 12, 2024

I officially need glasses. And, no, not just for blocking out the computer light but also just for life. In fact, at my last eye appointment, the optometrist recommended I get glasses for distance, especially for driving/driving at night. But she also told me that if I could just get one pair of glasses, the most important pair was the reading glasses. So I got those and then tried to force myself to not need them, which meant that I absolutely did not get the glasses for distance either.

Fast forward to today. I told her that my eyes often bother me and get blurry, but I can’t tell if they’re blurry because I need to put on the glasses or because I have a headache as blurry vision is one way I know I have a headache. I will put the glasses on, and it changes nothing. I mean, yes, the text is a little clearer but it can still be blurry. “Hmm,” she said. “Yeah, we’ll take a look at that.”

So we did the eye exam and the which is better 1 or 2 and then she made everything completely blurry and backed off of that. At the end, she told me my eyes are fatigued (which…we’ve been here before, and, honestly, probably never left) and that the reason she did the blurry thing was to try to get my eyes to relax because I have been giving myself eye strain. So that was fun. I told her that I have tried to do screen free weekends, but it’s so much harder now than it used to be, but I probably should do at least one screen free day per week. The trick will be figuring out which one. Saturday will probably be the best choice because I meet with a friend of mine for weekly planning and also my writing group via Zoom on Sundays.

In the meantime though, I need to wear glasses. She said definitely when I’m using the computer or on my phone. “But you should also wear the distance ones when you watch TV,” she said. Welp, guess who watches TV while she’s working on her computer? That’s right. So then we had a long talk about whether or not I should get progressives (née bifocals) or have two separate pair of glasses. I’m sure no one’s surprised that I chose progressives. Because there is no way I’m going to take my reading/computer glasses off every time I look up at the television to switch and put on a different pair of glasses. I would be angry after the first two times I did that. I also opted to get the transition lenses that turn into sunglasses when you walk outside because of course I did.pupillary distance

I am a little mad at myself, though, because I really wanted to get a pair of fun and funky glasses, but I let the guy at the glasses shop talk me into picking a pair today. What I should have done (and I say this without judgment but as a reminder to myself) was said that I wanted to think about it before making a decision because I actually wasn’t prepared to pick out glasses today. However, I did the thing of “well, I’m already here, and he’s helping me, and this will prob ably be easier than shopping online” even though I saw a woman with glasses that I liked at book club, and she gave me the site to where she got them from. So I’m going to call in the morning and see if I can cancel my order. (Um, if I look at that website and it has the frames I want.) The frames I picked out at the store are kind of fun but not the level of fun I was going for, if that makes sense. Anyway, I may change my mind about this after I hit post, so we’ll see.

The optometrist did say that the deterioration of my eyesight is mostly age related, which I figured. I mean, I am over forty, which seems to be the going age for needing reading glasses. However, I was trying to hold out as long as possible–mostly because I liked (past tense, sigh) to lord my perfect vision over my friends who wear glasses. As I always tell them, I am the perfect example of privilege. I did literally nothing to deserve having excellent eyesight. I just happened to be born that way. My eyes, to paraphrase a saying, were born on third base and I acted like I hit a triple. So teasing my friends and family because they wear glasses means I slight them just because they were born with eyes that function differently, something they had no control over. And yet, I am bereft that I no longer have the standing I once did. I am now no better than them! (I was never any better than them.)

The good news is that I am in denial no longer. The bad news is that now I will always have to have glasses on my face. To see! At all times!

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1 Comment

  1. Shawnda Fukano

    Welcome to the world of glasses! I love all of the inner dialogue you share throughout this slice. I felt like I was right there with you at the optometrist as you came around the the truth of needing glasses and got sucked into picking out frames you didn’t really want. I hope whatever glasses you end up with, you are happy with them!


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